Problems With Playgroup (Didn't explain myself well last time)?

I have an 8 week old and a 1 1/2 year old and they are in a playgroup that me and five other moms formed. The ages range from 7 weeks-2 1/2. One of the mothers is married to a rich guy and has a 2 year old daughter. In the begining the mother was very nice and so was her daughter. Very recently we went to the zoo. We have a rule that we split into three groups 2 groups of 2 moms and three of the kids in each group and 1 group with a mom with 1 mom and two kids whenever we go on a field trip. One mom was in one of the two groups and was with another mom that has a 11 month old and a 13 month old in the group. Lily (one of the moms) took her daughter AND LEFT THE ZOO WITHOUT TELLING ANYBODY! She also was one of the mother%26#039;s that drove so we almost didn%26#039;t have room on the way home! When we left the zoo the other mothers and I agreed that what she did was wrong and decided to see her. The next day we all were to meet again at the park (c)

Problems With Playgroup (Didn%26#039;t explain myself well last time)?
I can%26#039;t believe she left your car seats out! What a complete lack of respect.


I would just call and tell her she is no longer invited to the playgroup. A phone call would avoid having any of the kids witness a confrontation.


If possible I would have the other mothers there. That way you will be able to inform the woman they are there listening and it will show her this was the group’s decision. Also the other mothers will know exactly what was said. No surprises later.
Reply:just that...that you have decided as a group that it is in the best interest of the group that she no longer be included.....thats all you can say..be prepared for some words for her but let it go at that..





what she did was very inconsiderate and rude unless of course it was a major emergency but she would have at least told a zoo worker and i am sure they could have found one of you and let you know....and in this day in age you cant tell me noone had a cell phone
Reply:i still just don%26#039;t understand why you all have to split up? and why leave one mom out with two kids? maybe she got her feelings hurt if she was the left-out mom. that sounds silly. you should talk to her instead of ganging up on her and just kicking her out. i mean good grief. yes, what she did was inconsiderate, but you all are acting rediculous. i mean, tell her that you don%26#039;t appreciate what she did, and that you all feel like her daughter is mean to the other kids and give her a chance to redeem herself. personally, you sound like a bunch of catty teenagers...ever see the movie %26quot;mean girls%26quot;? if i were her i wouldn%26#039;t WANT to be in your little play group.
Reply:I am part of a few playgroups. If a mother is irresponsible with other moms especiallly if other children are involved, She is polietly told to excuse herself from the playgroup. Or some are just not told of the future play sessions. Besides the fact that she just left you guys there to fend for yourselves, she thew out the carseats as if not to care that they would get stolen. And if they did get stolen, your babies would not have a safe ride to get home in! I would just tell her that she is no longer allowed to participate in future playdates. If she asks why, as if she didnt know, just gently tell her that her personality doesnt mesh well with the other moms and the children as well. Or you can just blow her off on inviting her to the next playdate.


Good Luck!
Reply:sounds more like a boot camp to me



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