Okay I am having a birthday party. QUESTION?

My fourteenth birthday is soon and there are three girls that I want to come. We have had scary movie nights at their houses and we are so close. And there is a fourth girl, %26quot;Lily%26quot;. She was my BEST friend since first grade (in 8th now) but for the past few years she has been very rude to me. I cant just forget about her though, for I go to a really small school and some other kids are mean to Lily. My mom wants me to have her to the sleepover but I dont REALLY want to. I dont think the three girls would like it very much, since they arent great friends with Lily. They don%26#039;t hate her, but she can get on their (and my) nerves. I have already told the three girls that I want to have a scary movie night/party so I cant just cancel, and I dont want to let my (former?) best friend down because we have always done things for birthdays. I feel as if I would be breaking some little club we have with the three girls if I invited Lily, but my mom really wants me to.





WHAT DO I DO?


THANKS..

Okay I am having a birthday party. QUESTION?
Just try to be her friend this one last time. Have a heart to heart talk with Lily alone, and explain that some of the ways she acts nerves you and makes her look immature. You%26#039;re only telling her this because you still care about her, and want her to be the best she can be. Sometime people don%26#039;t even know that the way they act is really silly or stupid. Help her out. Tell your new friends that you%26#039;ll be inviting you friend Lily, and trying to be her friend this last time, and had a little talk about her behavior in private. Maybe Lily just needs a little encouragement to behave.
Reply:It%26#039;s your party, not your moms. Invite who you think you will have a good time with, and if lily isn%26#039;t who you think you will have a good time with, then don%26#039;t invite her, it%26#039;s that simple
Reply:ohh wow, trust me i think we%26#039;ve all been through that like a lot!


I think you should do what you feel is right.


I mean if lillys going to ruin the whole night-dont invite her.


i have a friend that always brings down everybody at parties..she%26#039;ll eiuether have a headache from watching movies or something and its boring so i just hang out wit hehr or have sleepovers seperatly! just promise to do something with her another time!!.


and tell your mom, you don%26#039;t feel it%26#039;ll be fun,so youll do something with her a diffrent day...it always works. but dont tell her your having 3 friends over, tell her your just watching movies and youi can only have a certain amound of friends over or something!





good luck!
Reply:What are you it is your birthday,It is your spacial day.Tell your mom to let you plan it out.In Mexican culture, the only time a parent get to pick whom to invite is when you turn 15.And what kind of friend are you,you should stick up for your F***ing friend. You should be close not fighting and tellyou other tree friends that you want your other friend to come.At the party ONLY talk and hang out with Lily because she know you the best and it might be your last time to talk to her,if she keep being rude to you.
Reply:Ooh, happy early b-day. Mine will be here soon.


Since I%26#039;m your age, I see where you%26#039;re coming from. And here%26#039;s what I think about the situation:





Let your Mom know what %26quot;Lily%26quot; is doing to you. Tell her that you and Lily are kinda on the rocks and you%26#039;d rather not spend your birthday being miserable. It IS your b-day and your mom should respect your wishes. Also, have you considered talking to Lily? Tell her how you feel when she gets on your nerves-she may not realize what she is doing. Good luck and again, happy early birthday.
Reply:Have 2 birthday parties... Have one with your really close friends and then just like have a day to hang out with your old best friend, Lily
Reply:Unless she%26#039;s really rude to you, I think you should invite her. Just be sure to include her, so she doesn%26#039;t feel left out. And make sure your other friends know she%26#039;s coming, and that you don%26#039;t want any drama. You could always invite a couple other girls (with your mom%26#039;s approval of course)- maybe then things would be less awkward if there were more people to talk to. But if she would invite you to her birthday, you should invite her to yours. Happy Birthday!
Reply:I%26#039;m turning fourteen too and I had the same problem. I was friends with a girl since 3rd grade and then she was so rude to me. Deffinatley dont invite her unless you want your party to be ruined. Happy B-day.



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