I have never been sooo disgusted! Its gone at 13!!!!!!!?

Okay my name is Lily, and lets just say I am in my teens okay?


My little sister, Anna, who is 13, just lost her virginity to some 16 year old CREEP who likes to have sex with little girls!


I am so disgusted with both of them. I found out first, and of course I told my parents, and she was punished by grounding and them keeping a really close eye on her, and they acted all disapointed and stuff, and took her to a counseler.


Okay I admit it, I am 15, and I am not gonna like %26#039;%26#039;save myself for marrige%26#039;%26#039; or I might but I am not some kind of old fashioned oldie.


I will lose it when I want to but 13 is wayyyy to young.


Now my sister is saying she loves him and ants to move in with him and we are all like %26#039;%26#039;what the hell!?%26#039;%26#039; no Anna your never seeing him again (i mean, really)


now she is failing 7th grade and is acting all depressed. Any suggestions? (no suggestions from people trying to get me to go on thheir freakin%26#039; websites okay?


Thanks in advance!

I have never been sooo disgusted! Its gone at 13!!!!!!!?
Wow, Lily it is nice to see someone of your age actually caring about her little sister. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Keep talking to her about this creep, she will come around. Meanwhile, get some of your guy friends to beat the crap out of him or at least threaten him to stay away from her..
Reply:Lock her up and throw away the key until she%26#039;s 30 you%26#039;ve got a wild one on your hands....make sure you don%26#039;t end up on the Maury Povich show LOL
Reply:SEND HER TO ALL GIRLS BOARDING SCHOOL!
Reply:she%26#039;s at a very critical age and she truely thinks that the whole world is a bunch of idiots and she%26#039;s the one who%26#039;s right at this point..she%26#039;ll stay depressed for a while and then she%26#039;ll find that it%26#039;s useless, she might fail and thats not the end of the world, the important thing is that this is a phase that she%26#039;ll get past, but it%26#039;s very important to keep her surrounded so we wont do sthg stupid, get her best friends to talk some sense into her, play the role of the caring sister and be by her side, try not to tell her ur opinion so frankly, at least pretend that u understand but u can see clearer...stick to her, she%26#039;ll be alrite
Reply:Do they have lockdown for girls like your sister?





Did they report this guy? Is this statutory rape in your state?





Scare the guy away? Better yet send him to prison where he will be someone else%26#039;s 13 year old b@#@!1. Find out what school he goes to and spread rumours about him (about what he does and how he is infecting little girls) etc.
Reply:Work with her through her counseling. Try to be a positive influence in her life. She is pretty much still a child and needs her self esteem built up. It is great that you are so passionate about her and keeping her from seeing that guy. That is the right thing to do. But with that you must give her love and support by developing a better friendship with her. Hopefully, she will grow to admire you and will want to take your advice and guidance throughout her whole life. This is a great opportunity for you to become her best friend. The more you show interest into her happiness, the happier she will become with herself and she won%26#039;t allow anyone, especially a guy to control her ever again.





Make sure you keep explaining your passion to protect her with your love for her.


Good luck and good job!!
Reply:i have no advice as far as her sex life goes, but tattling on her just made her that much less close to you. now she probably won%26#039;t tell you or her parents anything anymore, and the trust is broken. you should have talked to her first, but what%26#039;s done is done. she%26#039;s more likely to rebel. that%26#039;s how teenagers think.. but sex at 13 is too young anyway. whatever, i know a lot of girls that lose it at that age. i personally have not yet.. but still
Reply:well, instead of fighting her so much on this, you are only alienating her more. so, you need to stop being so critical because she already had sex %26amp; you can%26#039;t change it. just stop being angry with her %26amp; start being there for her. this is part of the reason she thinks she is in love with this guy-- because he acts like he cares more than anyone else does right now (in her mind).





in the mean time, you really do need to help get her on some birth control. condoms are a good start. you won%26#039;t be encouraging the act, but you can encourage safe sex. you don%26#039;t want to be an aunt yet? do you?
Reply:ur sister is probably like brainwashed by this guy i agree she lost it to early but she mite be sayin stuff like vry bodies doin it shez rite like dat, lots of girls in dis generation have lost it


jus hope itz a stage and soon she%26#039;ll get over it
Reply:You have to be supportive of her..not of what she did (of course). The more your family and you are dramatizing the situation the more she will act out and be depress. You should focus on the positive it%26#039;s Christmas time try to do some activities together. Go out with her, go to the mall or something , go see a movie with her. Try to talk to her and see what is going on with her, don%26#039;t judge her by saying it%26#039;s disgusting! (even if i agree with you 13 is too young, but it%26#039;s to late she already done it.). that will maybe help you when you will have your own kids some day....
Reply:Seems like your family is already doing all the right things... so now just dont give up!
Reply:She%26#039;s going through a phase where she craves attention, and she%26#039;s damaging her mind and body by doing it. Putting your nose in her business will push her away, and will push your parents away, as well. It%26#039;s a hard position to be in. Stand by her. Tell her you%26#039;re going to back off, but you%26#039;re there if she needs to talk. She will be fine in a couple years when she realizes what she%26#039;s been doing.
Reply:if possible introduce her to a pregnant or mother teen and hopefully that will scare the crap out of her by seeing how hard and diffulcult it is to be in a situation like that...


and with the guy maybe dad ought to sit down and talk to him and let him know straight up what is going on and scare the livin crap out of him...let him know if he ever does something like this again then he is %26quot;DEAD%26quot;
Reply:Oh man!! That is a really hard one to deal with. I am about to be 33 and I am not trying to preach so please don%26#039;t take it that way. I would let her know that giving it up at that age is done out of what they feel at the moment. It will be regretted later. It%26#039;s not too late for her to save herself. But she will need her big sister to talk to. If she will listen. It kills me that there are people out there running around messing with little girls minds. But it is happening ALOT. Usually older creeps do it because they know that if they get a girl to fall for their stupid little %26quot;I love you%26#039;s%26quot; and %26quot;You%26#039;re so sexy%26quot; and all that other garbage they feed them, then they will get who they want and what they want. I was 14yrs old when I fell for that crap and got pregnant at 17 and had her at 18, so I know what I done wrong. But I use my experience as far as creeps and feeling that you %26quot;love%26quot; that person to let her know, it%26#039;s okay to love that person but you don%26#039;t have to do all that. And I would bet that if she(your sis) told him that she didn%26#039;t want to anymore until the time is right (marriage), I bet he wouldn%26#039;t stay around. Because he didn%26#039;t even try to respect her or your family. Feelings that young of age doesn%26#039;t last forever. Things change. She will need somebody she can tell everything too. She doesn%26#039;t need to feel afraid to talk about things. She will go to the one she shares everything and anything with. Just try to look past the pain and disgust that you feel and let her know that you love her and no matter what that she can talk to you. And give her YOUR opinion, and let her know %26quot;Hey, you may not like my opinion, but I love you and I don%26#039;t want to see you hurt or used%26quot;. I wish I could say more on here and I hope I haven%26#039;t made you mad with anything I have said. But I have always told my 14 yr old that she can talk to me no matter what. And if she is told something by a guy that flatters her, I will say %26quot;Well, he might mean that but don%26#039;t fall for it cause guys will say anything to get what they want and if he REALLY cares about you then he will wait and he will not treat you any different. If the guy want to get his groove on with anybody he can do all that WITHOUT her. But he better show her respect and care about how she feels about her own body. My daughter has had the same boyfriend for right at a year now. He knows we ain%26#039;t playing the player game. Good luck though and if you want to email me, I believe it is on here. If not, that is okay too. Just be there for her if you can. P. S. I didn%26#039;t have anybody to talk to when I was 14yrs old. My mom had handed me books that told about your body and changes with your body and all that other stuff but never talked to me. So I was scared to talk to her because she never offered to talk either. Just imagine how scared I was when I was 17 and found out I was pregnant, all she said to me was that I was stupid.
Reply:Tell her the truth! If she continues on her present course, she will be pregnant and on welfare for the rest of her life. She will be used and abused, and never be able to have a chance at a good life.


Tell her that you love her, and that you will help her get over her mistake. Tell her that she has to get it into her head, that nothing in this life is free, and that you will only appreciate something that you worked hard to get.


Tell her that she needs to get as much education as she can, for education is the way to a good chance at a good life.


She can do these things because many others in her situation have overcome similar mistakes and problems, and have succeeded in life because they believed in themselves, and their ability to persevere and overcome it all!


And, tell her that YOU LOVE HER. That she is your SISTER, and that she is part of you, and that YOU do not want to Lose Her.
Reply:YIKES! i think your parents should send her to boarding school!!


it is up to your parents to fix this one! you and your sister are to young to try and fix this yourself. of course she is in love, first loves are the WORST!!! good luck to you and your sissy!!!!
Reply:Well, I think you need to make her feel that she can trust you so that when you talk to her she will listen. try to make an example that moving out with the guy is like killing yourself. Not because he is the first to have sex with her she should be with him. maybe give her a little space ask her what she wants if its wrong then explain why for her to understand. Give her time she%26#039;s still infatuated with the guy I think.
Reply:jesus, it almost sounds like she%26#039;s been brainwashed. as far as what you can do for her, all i can think of is that even though she%26#039;s clearly wrong, try to be there for her as a friend, cuz wrong or right, she%26#039;s still hurting. try to hang out with her extra to help take her mind off of things a bit. when family is what it%26#039;s supposed to be, it can help keep you grounded, which is definitely what she needs right now. good for you for looking out for your little sis even when i%26#039;m sure it wasn%26#039;t easy. good luck.





and fairchild, you%26#039;re a moron. you can%26#039;t always reason with a 13 year old, and this girl was in danger. sometimes you HAVE to bring parents into it. the sister%26#039;s safety is a lot more important than her being upset about getting grounded.
Reply:I think the only thing to do is continue with the counselor or find a better one. You could try talking to her since you are her older sister and she may listen to you better than she would your parents. I wouldn%26#039;t want her to end up getting pregnant at such a young age, so maybe you could mention to her that she could end up pregnant moving in with him. haha%26quot;old fashioned oldie%26quot; well, I don%26#039;t waiting until marriage is being old fashioned, that%26#039;s actually in the Bible. But I know how the world is today and many people don%26#039;t wait until marriage. I wouldn%26#039;t recommend losing it when you want to, but when you%26#039;re ready for it and its consequences because something like that can change your life-as you see happening with your sister.
Reply:Holy cow!


Well its sounds to me like she has an emotional attachment problem and she feels like there is nobody out there that will ever satisfy her but him. She has had an emotional experience that should have been saved for someone she truly loved and not just gave it away. Obviously she is vulnerable and feels like she is not getting enough love. Usually this is contributed to being neglected by the father, you know not enough one on one daddy daughter time. She needs a strong male role model in her life to feel that gap until she is older.
Reply:I work in a middle school and I see so much of this, children having sex and thinking they are grown up. They end up children having children if the parents don%26#039;t stay very strict and watch them closely. They should never have the opportunity to be alone with anyone, no matter what they say, don%26#039;t let them go to their %26#039;friends%26quot; house unless you know the parents personally and can trust them to watch them like their own. And once they have sex they will never be a virgin again.
Reply:You sound like the only sensible 15 yr old online these days.


Instead of being down on her explain to her you are just trying to keep her from doing stupid things she will regret later.
Reply:The teen years are often times when kids will rebel just to be different. The more the parents turn on the pressure, the more attractive a bad choice can be. Also many teens find that the %26quot;love%26quot; of a relationship and unconditional love of a baby can fill in the cracks of uncofidence and low self esteem they have. Good luck!
Reply:Your sister needs love and support not reproach and punishment. And if you can%26#039;t forgive her how do you expect she would forgive herself? The matter has been pictured to her as an unpardonable sin or loss; the thing that has resulted in despair and abstention. Despair means she has nothing to be careful about (she lost her virginity) and abstention as she wants to prove that what she has done is right and OK and she determines to go on it to prove you are wrong.





I think it is necessary to embrace her to feel safe and secure. Then she should be shown that at their age they are still too young to bear the responsibility of their relationship as they can not be committed to each other. Finally, dealing with the matter as any daily life mistakes that can be put right if we can learn from this mistake. However, the most important thing is the family love, support, tolerance and indirect guidance.
Reply:She probably needs to see the family doctor. She might need some meds.
Reply:Counseling should help with this!!
Reply:try to understand and more comunicate





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Reply:Your a pretty shitty sister.





you should of talked to her about it first not gone and tattled to your parents. if i was your sis id NEVER forgive you.








I feel bad for her.
Reply:Hello, Dr. Phil do I have a show for you!
Reply:this sounds serious, your parents need to get on the stick.
Reply:$10 she%26#039;s knocked up by 14!!!





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