Man /Woman/boyfrien... friendships?

I have dated the love of my life for 6 years- through some ups and downs.But we stuck together, Recently she started a second shift job and developed a friendship with a man who worked there. They have had some phone contact and have met for dinner once(I didn't know about it because she lied) Then the contact stopped for a while. Then she called him about trying to get back to work there.Well Saturday I was at her house surprising her with an Easter Lily and the phone rang. It was him and he wanted to get together with his granddaughter and her son. They made plans over the phone right in front of me and she never even asked if we were doing anything together. We usually spend our Saturdays together.I was outraged to think that I would be left alone on a Saturday while she went to this guys house and playground.She insists that they are only friends but I am very very hurt. Any thoughts???

Man /Woman/boyfrien... friendships?
Tell her, and find out where you stand. It looks as though she may be ready to move on, sadly for you, as she may not see the outcome of your 'ups and downs' in your relationship in quite the same way as you do. It might be time just to move on yourself or carry the relationship through into marriage - 6 years is a long enough time to do something about it. The fact she feels comfortable enough to make these arrangements in front of you means that she's about given up hope of going further with you because you've delayed for so long. I think it's reasonable after so many years to decide whether you want to commit to this girl and ask her to marry you or live with you, or go your separate ways.
Reply:This women obviously doesn't care about u!So my advice to u is find someone who does and try to forget about her!
Reply:You've been together for 6 years? It's way too long. A couple more years and you'll start acting like siblings (you may already do). Either propose or get out! The longer you stay, the greater the chance it'll be the latter.





With your current status, you have no right to ask her to do or not do anything. But if it bothers you so much, talk to her about it.
Reply:best thing to do is to ask her


assuming things will get you no where


tell her how you feel about her and ask if she feels the same about you


usually people pick up relationships at work places because they around the same type of people for longer time


give her time to think about you........maybe you dont understand each other and need to talk about it


remember communication is the key to a succesful relationship
Reply:Hunni, you say you are outraged that she would leave you alone....hello.....there is another guy involved here, thats what you should be outraged about. You need to ask yourself Do you love yourself enough to walk away? You do not deserve to be played with, friend or no friend. You deserve to be treated with respect. Let her go and be with the guy from work.....as they say....If you love them set them free....if they come back then their yours. Dont put yourself through hell thinking that things will change. A leopard doesnt change its spots, they just re-arrange them. I am so sorry you are hurting so much, I send you ((((hugs)))) and hope you find the strength to walk away.
Reply:Well first of all it is good to have friends outside of your relationship. Second, she doesn't have to ask to see if you two are doing anything. If you wanted to do something with her you should of asked before hand not just expected it. I have been married for 3 years and I still don't expect to have plans with my husband, if we didn't make plans together to do something than I know I can make plans for my children to go on play dates for them. It sounds to me like it is just play date for the children. Or she would have not made the plans in front of you if it was for any other reason.
Reply:well, why don't you ask the love of your life about that? why don't you just have a conversation where your both feel conversation AND TRY NOT TO GET INTO A FIGHT don't say something like because your with me, you cannot hang out with other men,that will cause an emmense amount anger. But before that, observe her actions for at least 3 weeks and if you find something suspicious like if she starts communicating LESS with you,if she ignores your calls/messages/texts, if she acts secretly with you(check if your b-day is near.She MIGHT be planning for that)e.t.c... then make that conversation. During that conversation, if she suddenly gets angry or starts not acting serious or changing the subject then something HAS to be happening.If you really think that you want this relationship to survive,try seeing a pyscaitrist.
Reply:why didnt you go along with them to the park !?!?!?
Reply:just tell her how u feel... if she likes u the same way u like her... she'll never go back 2 c the guy ever again... if she doesnt... sry man... *hugs*





good luck
Reply:that sounds odd to me whats up i would be straight forward with her and ask her you deserve it you have been with her for a long time i dont know your relationship but that was very selfish of her and if you are a couple she should of at least included you or something i just dont understand people sometimes and how would she feel if you did that to her this just doesnt look or sound good so i would work it out now before it goes any further dont let her disrespect you like that i let a pass bo do that crap to me and guess what he lost me and now he wants me to come back i moved completely to another state to get away from him and im still inlove with him but i told him i wont put up with it and what goes around comes around but you dont want to do that to her because it will just cause more problems in the future i wish you luck and hopefully that is all it is but i would seek the man and tell him about you and her and your relationship might piss her off but do what you think is right and do it for your self worth you will be happier with yourself by standing up for you
Reply:She is cheating on you, I have the same thing done to me so i know my husband of 8 years was the one getting the phone calls, going out with her,and email to her all day long. I am so sorry that these things happen to the best of us. It hurts really bad and there is not a whole lot you can do about this but to leave.



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